The full armor

Scott Green preached a great sermon last week. I was reflecting on it this morning and had some thoughts. The key passage for me was Eph 6:10-20, the classic treatise on the spiritual battle. The first thing Paul addressed was the fact that the struggle is not against the people in our lives (e.g., workmates or family members), but rather against dark spiritual forces. This is the reality. Therefore, we need protection. I did some deeper reflections on each of the armor elements based on my limited knowledge of war as well as my 1.5 years training in kung fu.

Taking your stand
The Bible says, "when the day of evil comes", not IF. All of us will be tested and go through challenges. This is a spiritual reality. I want to work really hard so I can get to an easy point and from then on can relax. But this is not how God set up this life! Days of evil will come my way, often evil of my own making due to my sin, and sometimes others' sin. It is at those moments that I must take my stand.

I want you to reflect with me on the battle and what happens when you stop taking your stand. The Roman army was legendary for having very large shields that formed a nearly impenetrable wall as they advanced. Attackers typically shot the arrows first. With the shields in place and an "advancing" mentality, the soldiers were relatively safe. But think about what happens if everyone gets afraid and turns and runs. Suddenly everyone is vulnerable to the attack of the arrows.

In kung fu, if we could get someone to turn their back to us, then this placed them at a disadvantage and in a vulnerable position. Arms were made to work forwards, not backwards! If I have someone's back to me, suddenly I can do whatever I want to their head and neck and they can do relatively nothing. It's a matter of time before they are on the ground in a submission hold (not that I advanced that far to learn all those techniques :-).

Spiritually speaking, we have to be ready to take our stand. If we flee, we give up ground and eventually the enemy will overtake us. Think about how Europe kept giving up land to Hitler trying to pacify him until Hitler had literally run the opposing armies into the ocean, necessitating D-Day to reestablish that key beachhead!

The great thing about a relationship with God is that he always has our back. Ecclesiastes 4:12 states, "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." In the body of Christ, we have so many resources to confess, get advice, and get help so that we can take our stand. Individually, we have to take our daily stand against sin. Evangelistically, it is a huge challenge to consistently take a stand alone. That's why Jesus sent us two by two (Mark 6:7).

Evangelistic Feet
Paul urges the Ephesians to possess "feet fitted with the readiness that ocmes from the gospel of peace." Despite multiple attempts, I've really never made a lot of sense of this element until today. My first realization was that the apostles were commissioned and literally sent out on foot to "go make disciples of all nations" (Mt 28:18). Their feet had to be ready to carry them. Location was the biggest barrier between people and the gospel.

Today, we have no such barriers. The world is relatively small. 4 out of 6 billion people on this planet own a cell phone. What needs to be ready is my tongue and mouth. What holds me back? Not being, thinking, & speaking on my feet! Think about it: if you're sitting or lying down, it takes time to get on your feet before you can take action. I was in the grocery store on Friday Nov 6. I ran into a guy I know. It had been a long time since I'd seen him and he'd gone through a lot. I gave him a hug and was warm and loving, which I hope made a difference. But I didn't take any actions that could multiply that love I had for him. Fortunately, God gave me an idea that I should invite him to our Family Group dinner after church on Sunday. 2 minutes later he wheeled his kids around the aisle again past me and I stopped him and we exchanged phone numbers and he expressed an interest. Sometimes we're not ready the first time, but God gives us a second chance if we want to be ready!

Fear holds me back too. But there's a solution: prayer! Paul himself requested prayer in v19-20 that he could proclaim the gospel fearlessly as he should. We all feel fear when we think about whether or not we'll share our faith. But courage is action in the face of fear. At Landmark we did a great exercise that helped me understand that people are just as much or more afraid of me than I of them! If you feel fear, tell yourself and Satan, "I acknowledge my fear and thanks for sharing, now I'm going to obey God and act to make a difference in this world!"

The Importance of Readiness
In kung fu, we worked on our footwork all the time. Why? You stand on your feet. Duh. But what can you do while you're on your feet? Fight. If you're off your feet, it's a grappling battle on the ground and you are much more likely to get hurt. Ultimate Fighting is all about taking out the other guys' legs. In Paul's day, anyone whose leg was injured suddenly became a liability and his buddies had to protect him and get him off the battlefield. It literally took someone out of the attack and the battle in order to help the guy who was off his feet.

This is why evangelism is so key. If we're not on our feet advancing the gospel on a daily basis, we are way more vulnerable to Satan's attacks. Satan wants us to get us off our feet and then it can take a tremendous amount of effort for the Christians around us to get us back on our feet, fighting the fight for others' souls.

When I'm not being evangelistic, I am playing a game that is way too small. Christianity becomes merely a game of church attendance and attempting to stay consistent in reading my Bible and praying. When I considered myself in "top fighting form" is when I was studying the Bible with several guys at the UW. Quiet Times and prayer times and times with brothers were absolutely essential to get strength and get training and stay close to God. I was in touch with the power of sin and Satan's ability to take me out.

I have already confessed to many that I was out of the game, but praise God that I have recently gotten back in the game and in the fight. If you're battling discouragement like I was, if you're not having Quiet Times 7 days a week, if getting to midweek and church early is a constant struggle, then getting back in the evangelistic fight is exactly what you need! Wading back in gradually isn't going to work for you! God wants us to play a much bigger game than simply staying saved ourselves. God is a genius--he knows that we do much better spiritually when we're unconcerned for ourselves and concerned for others. I naturally do way better spiritually when I am considering and meeting others' needs above my own.

Let's stay on our feet so that we can fight with our sword, which is the word of God!

The Shield of Faith
Faith is an amazing tool. The Bible explicitly says that it can extinguish the flaming arrows of the evil one. I naturally think of this applying to myself. My faith helps me overcome the evil thoughts and insecurities and fears that come to my mind throughout the day.

But this morning I considered how my faith can be a shield for others. Jesus acknowledged the faith of the paralytic's friends in Mark 2:5. Galatians 6 states, "carry each other's burdens" (v2) but also that "each one should carry his own load" (v5). I realized that my faith can literally be a shield for someone who is off their feet, who is being attacked by Satan's arrows. I cannot shield them indefinitely, but for a time I can certainly lend a hand. When I'm in a conversation with someone and I see a flaming arrow Satan has put into their minds, I can literally say something based on my faith and extinguish it for them. God can use our little faith the size of a mustard seed to disarm powerful weapons Satan is trying to use against others!

Shields can also be used as weapons. In particular, fight scenes from "Gladiator" come to mind for some reason, but also from Prince Caspian when Peter fights the evil Miraz. Sometimes we may not know the perfect scripture that applies to a situation. Sometimes we're literally out of practice in our use of the "sWord of God." However, our faith can still be an effective weapon. I love Tom Jones' mind change formula, which goes: "Situation blah, blah, blah and excuse blah blah blah--but God." He acknowledges the situation and then by faith brings God into the picture, which totally changes everything.

Conclusion
May we all enter our days fitted with the full armor of God. If you're not on your feet, then call someone and get help getting back up so you can fight the good fight of faith and finish the race!

Jealousy

A new situation in my life has sparked feelings of jealousy in a way I have not experienced before. From dictionary.com:

Envy and jealousy are very close in meaning. Envy denotes a longing to possess something awarded to or achieved by another: to feel envy when a friend inherits a fortune. Jealousy, on the other hand, denotes a feeling of resentment that another has gained something that one more rightfully deserves: to feel jealousy when a coworker receives a promotion. Jealousy also refers to anguish caused by fear of unfaithfulness.

Retrospectively, I have certainly experienced jealousy, but very seldom. Most of my feelings were really envy since there was not any self-justification involved. However, I'm realizing that the level of pain is definitely intensified by the closeness of the relationship involved.

This blog will explore the concept of jealousy from a Biblical perspective. I see these new feelings as an opportunity to feel some of the things I know that God feels. Yet I also know that while his emotions are completely appropriate, I must necessarily work through my emotions and get over them.

God is a Jealous God
As part of the 10 commandments, Exodus 20:4-7 summarizes how God's rule and what he feels about our loyalty to him.

You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments. You shall not misuse the name of the LORD your God, for the LORD will not hold anyone guiltless who misuses his name.

Ex. 34:14 expresses a similar sentiment. "Do not worship any other god, for the LORD, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God."

So what's up with this and how is it even relevant? I know so many of us struggle with bowing down before idols and worshipping Baal :-). In society today, we view jealousy as a negative emotion reserved for those whose lives and feelings are out of control. Marriages are by far the most common scenario for jealousy where the relationship has broken down to the point where one spouse accuses the other of disloyalty and unfaithfulness. Interestingly, scores of TV shows are based largely on emotions related to jealousy.

Relationship with God = Marriage
The truth is that God views our relationship with him precisely as a marriage. Hosea was an old testament prophet whom God commanded to take a wife (Gomer) who lived as a prostitute. God' intent was through Gomer's unfaithfulness, Hosea would understand a fraction of the emotions that God felt toward his people, the Jews.

Jealousy is a funny thing. A jealous spouse expresses great love and depth of feeling for the other. At the same time the jealous spouse also feels outrage, anger, animosity, and a desire to harm or hurt the object of their love. Jealousy is an extremely powerful emotion, as Proverbs 27:4 describes: " Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?."

Hosea 11 is one of my favorite chapters in the Bible because it shows the complete range of God's emotions toward us. At first, God feels tenderness as he remembers raising Israel as a child. Next, there is sudden outrage and vindictive punishment in versus 6 & 7 because of their many sins. Lastly, in v8-11, God relents and decides to have mercy on his people after all.

Ezekiel 16 is a graphic and detailed depiction of how God viewed his relationship with his people. It describes how God found Israel as a pitiful, helpless female baby lying in a field having just been born. God raised this child, bestowing many gifts, and the child became a beautiful woman. God entered into an exclusive covenant relationship of marriage. Yet Israel chose to go after other lovers and use the very gifts God had given to attract new lovers. In fact, she got so bad that she was a "reverse prostitute" and paid others in order to have sex with them. God's jealousy is so aroused that he must punish her violently and then he promises (v42) to be calm and no longer angry. If you read the chapter, you will see that God feels both like a rejected father/benefactor and like a jilted lover--and rightly so!

At the end of the day, God still loves his people and wants to take them back. "So I will establish my covenant with you, and you will know that I am the LORD. Then, when I make atonement for you for all you have done, you will remember and be ashamed and never again open your mouth because of your humiliation, declares the Sovereign LORD" (Ezek 16:62-63). This is entirely consistent with the parable of the prodigal son that Jesus told in Luke 15. The son comes to his senses and returns, yet only through his complete humility and the amazing generosity of the father is he able to yet again enjoy the privileges of being a son.

What is an idol?
In Bible times, idols were easy to spot. They were figurines of various sizes manufactured from wood, stone, and precious metals. Isaiah 44:6-23 contains a humorous comparison between God and idols, outlining the many absurdities of idol worship.

People joke today about idols, golden calves, Baal, and the like. It seems funny and superficially appropriate because our enlightened minds could not possibly worship such objects. But now that we understand the deeper meanings involved, it is most certainly not a joking matter. Imagine that you know a couple whose marriage has gone through the drama of infidelity and has finally been restored. Suppose you knowingly joked that everyone should get together for dinner sometime at the hotel where the husband had often met his lover? Such a remark would show complete insensitivity to the situation and the depth of the wound that had been healed.

But what is an idol? Do they exist today? Ezek. 14:1-7 explains that we can set up idols in our hearts. An idol is anything in our lives that takes the #1 place of importance that God deserves. While we may not bow down to anything physical, we show what matters most to us by how we spend our time, what we talk about, and areas we would not be willing to sacrifice in order to follow Jesus as his disciple. The range of idols can be tremendous and society actually approves of many of these idols:

• Our (grand)children, a relationship, or a spouse (always a challenge to avoid)
  
• Sports (football is notorously common)
• Our own beliefs and opinions and ideas about life and morality (this was a big one for me)
  
• Entertainment (actors, musicians, movies, video games, TV shows)
• Jobs
  
• Well-meaning projects to help others (e.g., ending pollution or homelessness)
• Our church or organization: events, special beliefs, special practices, etc.
  

It's certainly not hard to have an idol (or 2 or 3!). In fact, without conscious effort we always will have an idol in our hearts other than God.

Conclusion
I know God wants all of me (Luke 14:25-34). All of me is all I have to give. It only seems fair since God gave his only son Jesus for me. God married me at my baptism into Christ on December 15, 1999. Now that I understand God's jealousy more deeply, I am even more determined to maintain a big difference between God and anything else that can arise in my heart.

Today, society likes to make fun and mock the jealous God of the Old Testament. I hope you can understand along with me how appropriate God's feeling of jealous emotion really is. Proverbs 1:7 explains, " The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline." It is not a bad thing to fear a God who loves you so much that he is jealous and crazy and vengeful toward you when you are not putting him in that #1 spot!

The 11th Hour

We got licensed as foster parents with the intent to "foster to adopt" a child. Rather than go overseas, we wanted to help children in our backyard. When we brought Ar'Mircle home from the hospital on May 8, 2008, we had high hopes of adopting her within a year. Since then a lot has changed and her situation is much more complex. Her birth mother has made tremendous progress and has successfully fulfilled on her social programs for the last six months. In the coming months, she hopes to have overnight visitations with Ar'Mircle, leading up to reunification with Ar'Mircle.

Ar'Mircle's birth mother wants to reunify with all her children and so the family got into a special program. The new social worker will visit us on Monday 9/14/09. I will post a status update then for what is appropriate to disclose. However, our previous social worker had a "final chat" with us and impressed upon us the very strong likelihood that Ar'Mircle will return to her birth family and that we will not be able to adopt her. We have been aware of this possibility for about six months and have cried and prayed and gone through the emotional roller coaster.

God has always been in control of Ar'Mircle's situation, but this is particularly evident now as we try to surrender her daily into her true Father's hands who loves her more than we do. Tom Jones' weekly Mind Change email a few weeks ago pointed out that oftentimes God waits until the 11th hour to act. This idea seemed particularly applicable to our situation, so I wanted to explore this idea more deeply.

Abraham
The first obvious example in the Bible is Abraham, the father of faith. God promised Abraham a son in his old age (Genesis 15:1-6). Abraham took things into his own hands by siring Ishmael at age 86 with his slave girl (Gen 16:16). God's promise was not fulfilled until 14 years later with the birth of Isaac at age 100 (Gen 21:1-7). Over those 15-20 years, I wonder how often Abraham felt that God's promise was empty words? How often did he get frustrated with the age and decay in both Sarah and his own bodies? Yet at the last possible moment, God delivered on his promise.

Gen. 22:1-19 is one of the most challenging passages in the Bible. After Abraham waited so many years for Isaac, God audaciously commands Abraham to literally sacrifice his son, just like the pagans commonly sacrificed their children to false gods. Many struggle with this apparently callous, unreasonable, and cruel request (forgetting that God sacrificed his own Son 2000 years later). Yet Abraham did not waiver in his faith, for he explained to Isaac in v. 8, "God himself will provide the lamb for the burnt offering." Abraham made it into the "Faith Hall of Fame" of Hebrews 11, which explains that "Abraham reasoned that God could raise the dead" (Heb 11:19). Abraham's faith carried him through the actions of trudging up the mountain with his son, preparing the altar, tying up his son, putting him on the altar, and getting out the knife. Again, at the last possible moment, God intervened and told him not to sacrifice his son. Instead, God provided a ram and commended Abraham for not withholding his son.

This story is gruesome to our 21st century minds, yet the lesson is clear. God expects us to put him as #1, even above our kids. By this example of Abraham's faith, I am able to put God above Jade, Ar'Mircle and River, even though I adore them. It puts children in an awkward situation of too much power when the children are a parent's top priority, even above the marriage. God's priority list of God, Spouse, Children has worked well for us as we discipline and train our kids.

Joseph
Joseph was the great-grandson of Abraham. As a young man (17?), Joseph's step-brothers sold him into slavery in Egypt. Rather than renouncing his faith in God in a strange country, Joseph served his master Potiphar with excellence, leading to his promotion to steward. His faith even enabled him to resist the sexual advances of his Potiphar's wife and then kept him going as he was thrown into prison. In prison, Joseph served with excellence and eventually God brought him out and made him second in command to Pharoah as he implented a plan to save all the people from an impending famine. We don't know exactly how long this process took, but could easily have been 15 or 20 years. I find Joseph's example of perseverance inspiring, and I take note that God acted at seemingly the last moment in Joseph's life.

The Israelites
Joseph moved his family down to Egypt to escape the famine. After they multiplied, the Egyptians enslaved them. 400 years after the move to Egypt, God explains, "I have indeed seen the misery of my people in Egypt.... So I have come down to rescue them... and to bring them up out of that land into a good and spacious land, a land flowing with milk and honey" (Exodus 3:7-8). God raised up Moses to lead the Israelites out of Egypt. I wonder how many Israelites even remembered God's promise after so many generations? How many of them wondered if God would really rescue them? Yet after 400 years, at the 11th hour, God brought the Israelites out of Egypt. He even arranged things with the 10 plagues so that the Egyptians wanted the Israelites to leave and gave them many gifts on their way out.

If that weren't dramatic enough, three after they left, the Egyptian army pursued the Israelites, trapping them against the Red Sea. God waited until the army was nearly upon them before opening the Red Sea for them to pass through, then closing it back over the Egyptians, destroying their entire army in the process. It was yet another last-minute deliverance by God!

Daniel
This is one of the most famous stories in the Bible. As one of the Jews in captivity in Babylon, Daniel rose up to prime minister, just under the king. The king's jealous advisers tricked him into creating a law that for 30 days, everyone must pray exclusively to the king. By faith, Daniel did not alter his practice of praying in his window facing Jerusalem. Consequently, the king regretfully ordered him thrown into the den of lions. The next morning after a sleepless night, the king asked, "Daniel, servant of the living God, has your God, whom you serve continually, been able to rescue you from the lions?" to which Daniel responds, "O king, live forever! My God sent his angel, and he shut the mouths of the lions" (Daniel 6:20-22).

Daniel certainly believed God would rescue him. But at what point and in what manner? By the king revoking the law? By the king sending Daniel away for 30 days on a special mission? By killing the lions? Yet God chose not to rescue Daniel until he was literally in the lions' den for 8-10 hours.

Peter
The rapid growth of the early Christian church caused the Jewish population to panic as many converted to follow Jesus. King Herod arrested Peter and put him in jail as a ringleader of this new cult. Acts 12:1-19 describes how the night before his trial, an angel rescues him from four squads of soldiers and leads him out of jail. Peter knocks on the door where the disciples are praying for him and there is a humorous exchange where the girl leaves him outside still knocking in order to tell the good news to the others (v.14-15). Again, God chose to rescue Peter at the last possible moment and apparently he never was brought to trial.

Jesus
The Jews anticipated the coming of the Messiah for centuries. The Dead Sea Scrolls contain the prophecies of Isaiah that describe the Messiah's roles of king and suffering servant in amazing detail. The Jews looked forward to the coming of the Messiah, and perhaps many had even given up hope. Galatians 4:4 explains that God waited until the right time: "But when the time had fully come, God sent his Son, born of a woman, born under law, to redeem those under law, that we might receive the full rights of sons."

The idea of the 11th Hour is not that God always does what we want at the last minute. Instead, by faith we are given the strength to persevere to the 11th hour and then by faith to make it to through the crisis, if that is what God wants. Nowhere is that more evident than the example of Jesus.

Jesus knew he must fulfill the prophecy to suffer for the sins of the world in Isaiah 53. He spent time educating his disciples that "The Son of Man must suffer many things and be rejected by the elders, chief priests and teachers of the law, and he must be killed and on the third day be raised to life" (Luke 9:22). Yet when the moment came for his suffering, Jesus said, "My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death" (Matthew 26:38). At this point, he prayed this prayer many times, "My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will."

Jesus surrendered his life to God to the point that when Peter tried to fight off the soldiers coming to arrest him, Jesus told him, "Put your sword back.... Do you think I cannot call on my Father, and he will at once put at my disposal more than 12 legions of angels? But how then would the Scriptures be fulfilled that say it must happen in this way?" (Matt 26:52-54) Jesus could have been rescued at the 11th Hour, but instead he chose to suffer for my sins so that I could be forgiven and have a relationship with God. Sometimes an 11th Hour rescue is too short-sighted. The Faith Hall of Fame in Hebrews 11:39 states, "These were all commended for their faith, yet none of them received what had been promised. God had planned something better for us so that only together with us would they be made perfect." Sometimes God has a greater plan, a bigger game afoot that may require deep sacrifice for even greater gain.

The disciples were thoroughly disappointed and disillusioned when Jesus died. As they explained in Luke 24:17-24, "Jesus of Nazareth was a prophet, powerful in word and deed before God and all the people. The chief priests and our rulers handed him over to be sentenced to death, and they crucified him; but we had hoped that he was the one who was going to redeem Israel. And what is more, it is the third day since all this took place. In addition, some of our women amazed us. They went to the tomb early this morning but didn't find his body. They came and told us that they had seen a vision of angels, who said he was alive. Then some of our companions went to the tomb and found it just as the women had said, but him they did not see."

But it was not yet midnight on God's clock. Jesus had in fact risen from the dead, proving that even when it appears that the "fat lady has sung," God can do absolutely anything!

Conclusion
There are many more examples of God's last-minute rescues, including Samson (Judges 16:23-30) and Hezekiah (Isaiah 38). They remind me that not only can God act even at the 11th hour, he often (but not always) chooses to do it this way. Why? I'm not sure, but I know that last-minute rescues make it obvious that God has done it. When God averts a crisis that has almost occurred, it is clear to all that we need God, not only in crises, but every moment of every day.

I don't know how things will turn out with Ar'Mircle. I surrender her to God every day. He really does know best and he loves her most of anyone. And yet I maintain hope that God will pull out another 11th Hour rescue and our family will praise him because of it for the rest of our days.

21 Rules of this House (part 2)

The final installment covers some key rules. Rules 14-18 are very explicit in how to behave, spelling out the details of considerate living with others in the same household. They also are great principles for how to take care of the things entrusted us by God.

Rules 19-21 complete the loop, teaching the kids to ask rather than disobey, to assume the rules are in effect everywhere, and to accept discipline for disobeying the rules anytime anywhere.

14. We do not create unnecessary work for others.

• Matt 7:12. So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you.
• Phil 2:4. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
• 2 Tim 4:14-15. Alexander the metalworker did me a great deal of harm. The Lord will repay him for what he has done. You too should be on your guard against him, because he strongly opposed our message.
• Acts 15:1. Some men came down from Judea to Antioch and were teaching the brothers: "Unless you are circumcised, according to the custom taught by Moses, you cannot be saved."
• Eccl 3:1-8. There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity
  under heaven.... a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to tear and a time to mend....

15. When we open something, we close it.

• Matt 7:12. So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you.
• Num 19:15. And every open container without a lid fastened on it will be unclean.
• Isaiah 22:22. I will place on his shoulder the key to the house of David; what he opens no one can shut, and what he shuts no one can open.
• Rev 3:7. To the angel of the church in Philadelphia write: These are the words of him who is holy and true, who holds the key of David. What he opens no one can shut, and what he shuts no one can open.

16. When we turn something on, we turn it off.

• Matt 7:12. So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you.
• Phil 2:4. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.

17. When we take something out, we put it away.

• Matt 7:12. So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you.
• Phil 2:4. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.

18. When we make a mess, we clean it up.

• Phil 2:4. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
• Ezek 34:17-19. As for you, my flock, this is what the Sovereign Lord says: I will judge between one sheep and another, and between rams and goats. Is it not enough for you to feed on the good pasture? Must you also trample the rest of your pasture with your feet? Is it not enough for you to drink clear water? Must you also muddy the rest with your feet? Must my flock feed on what you have trampled and drink what you have muddied with your feet?

19. When we do not know what to do, we ask.

This is absolutely critical. I can't wait for my kids to be given an art project at Kids' Kingdom and ask the teacher what to do rather than marching ahead and making a mess of things!

• Prov 11:14. For lack of guidance a nation falls, but many advisors make victory sure.
• Prov 15:12. A mocker resents correction; he will not consult the wise.
• Prov 16:25. There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.
• Prov 19:20. Listen to advice and accept instruction, and in the end you will be wise.
• Prov 22:6. Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
• James 1:5. If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.

20. When we go out, we act just as if we were in this house.

This principle is absolutely essential. Kids are eager to assume that the rules can get nullified by moving around in space and time. Instead, God's principles are in effect 24/7. His Word is true everytime and everywhere, because he fills heaven and earth!

• Col 3:17. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
• Jer 23:23-24. "Am I only a God nearby," declares the LORD, "and not a God far away? Can anyone hide in secret places so that I cannot see him?" declares the LORD. "Do not I fill heaven and earth?" declares the LORD.
• 1 John 2:6. Whoever claims to be in him must walk as Jesus did.

21. When we disobey or forget any of the 21 Rules of This House, we accept discipline and instruction.

It is Biblical and loving for me to discipline my children! To this day, I tend to get discouraged by discipline, but I hope my kids can learn to accept it as a form of love and to respond with a repentant heart rather than a despondent & disappointed & discouraged heart. The results of discipline are well worth it!

• Prov 10:17. He who heeds discipline shows the way to life, but whoever ignores correction leads others astray.
• Prov 12:1. Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid.
• Prov 13:1. A wise son heeds his father's instruction, but a mocker does not listen to rebuke.
• Prov 13:24. He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.
• Prov 15:31-32. He who listens to a life-giving rebuke will be at home among the wise. He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding.
• Prov 22:15. Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.
• Prov 29:15. The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.
• Heb 12:5-6. My son, do not make light of the Lord's discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son.
• Heb 12:11. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.

The 21 Rules of this House (part 1)

In my last post, I introduced the book, "21 Rules" and reflected on the role that Rules have played in my life. I also outlined how the "21 Rules" will help implement my philosophy for raising my kids biblically. As I mentioned previously, the "21 Rules" does not include a list of scriptures. This QT will help fill that gap. Jade is very capable of memorizing already and so I want to make sure she memorizes a short scripture with each rule so that she understands that the rule comes from God and that she is obeying and pleasing God when she follows the rule. What a gift of amazing confidence I can give my kids for them to grow up with the assurance that they are pleasing their heavenly Father!

As I mentioned in the last post, the best thing to do is to start with the end in mind. What sort of household do I want to live in? What sort of world do I want for myself? For my kids? It all starts with my behavior and my example. It will take much prayer and a lot of help from other disciples to help me follow God's rules completely.

1. We obey our Lord Jesus Christ
This is the fundamental rule. All of these rules arise out of a relationship of wanting to please Jesus and to be like him in all we do. Rather than a set of rules, Christianity is a life arising out of a relationship with God!

• Joshua 24:15. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD.
• Luke 6:46. Why do you call me, "Lord, Lord," and do not do what I say?
• John 14:15. If you love me, you will obey what I command.
• John 14:23. If anyone loves me, he will obey my teaching. My Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him.
• Acts 2:36. Therefore let all Israel be assured of this: God has made this Jesus, whom you crucified, both Lord and Christ.
• Phil 2:9-11. Therefore God exalted him to the highest place and gave him the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.
• 1 Peter 3:15. But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord.

The word "Lord" bears some consideration. That means Jesus is the boss (Lord) of my life. Everything I do is for him. Jesus earned this title of "Lord" in my life by humbling himself in becoming human and then giving his life blood for my sins on the cross.

Implicit in this arrangement is the concept that I honor Jesus in all I do or say. Consequently, I am very strict with my kids about what expletives they are allowed to use. The Bible's guidance is "You shall not misuse the name of the LORD your God, for the LORD will not hold anyone guiltless who misuses his name" (Exodus 20:7). Clearly off-limits are things like "Oh my God," "Jesus," and "Christ." "Jeez" is an obvious derivative of "Jesus." Beyond this, we arrive at matters of opinion. Growing up, my parents were also very strict and my conscience leads me in this direction. "Golly" and "Gosh" are also off-limits (see here and here as well). The expression "oh my gosh" is extremely common in American English today. My children will have to learn that they do not say those words, although others may choose to do so. Also on the "off" list are borderline swear words popular with teens that have obvious definitions or connections to worse words: frick, sheist (German S-word), and crap.

For most of my readers, I am certain this is the first time you have heard of this conviction about gosh and that you probably use the expression "oh my gosh" rather often. You may think I am being legalistic. But ask yourself a few questions. "What is in my heart that keeps me from wanting to remove this expression from my speech?" "What real value is this expression conveying to my listener? Why not just say 'Wow'?" Also, please consider that the Bible commands us to be holy (set apart) and our speech is one way in which we are called to be different than the world.

That said, I will certainly not judge anyone who decides to use the word "gosh." For me, I cannot in good conscience have my kids or myself saying these words while claiming that we are following the admonition of Col. 3:17. "And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him."

2. We love, honor, and pray for one another

• John 14:34-35. A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.
• Romans 12:10. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.
• 1 John 4:11. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.
• Romans 15:30. I urge you, brothers, by our Lord Jesus Christ and by the love of the Spirit, to join me in my struggle by praying to God for me.
• James 5:16. Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.

3. We tell the truth

• Exodus 20:16. You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor.
• Prov 14:25. A truthful witness saves lives, but a false witness is deceitful.
• Prov 16:13. Kings take pleasure in honest lips; they value a man who speaks the truth.
• Prov 19:9. A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who pours out lies will perish.
• Eph 4:25. Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body.

4. We consider one another's interests ahead of our own

• Matt 7:12. So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you.
• Phil 2:3-4. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others
• 1 Cor 13:4-5. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

5. We speak quietly and respectfully with one another
Imagine a world in which all adults followed this rule all the time! Wow! I want that sort of world for my kids! I have so much room to grow in this one...

• Prov 16:24. Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.
• Prov 13:3. He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin.
• Matt 7:12. So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you.
• Eph 4:29. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
• James 1:19. My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.
• 1 Peter 2:17. Show proper respect to everyone: Love the brotherhood of believers, fear God, honor the king.

6. We do not hurt one another with unkind words or deeds

• Prov 12:18. Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
• Prov 15:1. A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
• Matt 7:12. So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you.
• Eph 4:29. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
• Col 3:17. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

7. When someone needs correction, we correct him in love
This rule is for Dad & Mom. The kids need to understand that God is looking out for them by providing rules for their parents to follow! Eph 6:4 is particularly challenging to balance the discipline of a child and exasperating them, particularly when they are sick or missed a nap.

• Prov 16:21. The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction.
• Gal 6:1. Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently.
• Eph 4:15. Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ.
• Eph 6:4. Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
• Col 3:21. Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.
• 2 Tim 2:24-25. And the Lord's servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth.
• Matt 7:3-5. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.

8. When someone is sorry, we forgive him.
Imagine a world where every adult followed this one!

• Matt 6:23-24. Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.
• Matt 18:21-22. Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times."
• Eph 4:32. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

9. When someone is sad, we comfort him.

• Prov 12:18. Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
• Prov 12:25. An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.
• Proverbs 16:24. Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.
• Romans 12:15. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.
• 1 Cor 12:26. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.
• 2 Cor 1:3-4. Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.
• 1 Thes 5:11. Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
• Heb 3:13. But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness.

10. When someone is happy, we rejoice with him.

• 1 Cor 12:26. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.
• Romans 12:15. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.

11. When we have something nice to share, we share it.

• Matt 7:12. So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you.
• Luke 3:11. The man with two tunics should share with him who has none, and the one who has food should do the same.
• Acts 4:32. All the believers were one in heart and mind. No one claimed that any of his possessions was his own, but they shared everything they had.
• 2 Cor 9:6. Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously.
• 1 Tim 6:18. Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share.

12. When we have work to do, we do it without complaining.
This one will require constant attention and calling our kids back to the standard of the Bible. In fact, I have a lot of work to do to get rid of all the complaining in my life! The bottom line is that I hate complaining out of any mouth, including my own. It is discouraging and sucks the life out of the room.

• Phil 2:14. Do everything without complaining or arguing.

13. We take good care of everything God has given us.

• Gen 1:28. Then God blessed them and said, "Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, and all the animals that scurry along the ground."
• Gen 39:8. "With me in charge," Joseph told her, "my master does not concern himself with anything in the house; everything he owns he has entrusted to my care."
• Matt 25:20. The man who had received the five talents brought the other five. "Master," he said, "you entrusted me with five talents. See, I have gained five more."
• Luke 16:11-12. So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches? And if you have not been trustworthy with someone else's property, who will give you property of your own?

More to come!

The 21 Rules of this House (intro)

We have some good friends (Hiep and Michelle Bui) who are successful and capable parents. Michelle is particularly resourceful and has pulled her kids out of the public school system and began educating them at home, with very positive results in her kids' behavior. One tool she has used is a short booklet entitled, "The Original 21 Rules of This House."

The book is out of print, but I obtained a used copy that was in great shape through Amazon. I expected it to simply be a useful set of rules that I would have to place into a Biblical framework. However, I was pleasantly surprised that it was already Biblically based.

The idea behind "21 Rules" is that you teach your kids one rule each week. Repetition and training are essential. When the kids are fully trained, apparently they will often quote the rule appropriate to the situation. All the parent has to do is start the sentence, "In this house..." Who wouldn't love to have kids that are so highly well-trained?! Yet it is clear that having a set of rules that the kids know will not necessarily keep them from misbehaving (they still have a choice). Furthermore, when they are older, all rules come under scrutiny as kids become adults and try to internalize which rules work and why they work.

The booklet is relatively simple: a few pages for the parents, a poster, and a set of color-book pages (one per rule). However, there is no list of scriptures on which to base each of the rules, so I started doing my QT's to figure this out. But first, a few reflections about rules.

The Rules Growing Up
When I was a kid, obedience to the rules was very important. We were Seventh-Day Adventists (SDA) and we followed all 10 of the 10 Commandments, including the 4th one (keep the 7th Day Sabbath holy). My parents were consistent in their discipline and my sister and I were fairly pliable. I started 2nd grade at the SDA grade school and was shocked to see the variability in the other kids' behavior when we all supposedly had the same belief system. After the shock wore off, I developed a sense of frustration because if everyone followed the rules then we would learn so much more and waste much less time. I remember quietly sitting in a loud and chaotic classroom at 3pm one afternoon in 3rd grade. The teacher had turned off the lights and the kids were still bouncing off the walls. She gave me an apologetic look that said it all. I lost a lot of respect for her that day since she could not keep the kids under control. However, I have since more fully appreciated the challenge of maintaining classroom discipline for 10 or 12 kids at Kids' Kingdom, much less the 20+ in that classroom that day.

After some reflection, I believe the fundamental source for my discomfort was a lack of security. If others don't follow the rules, how do I get them to change their behavior? How do I predict the world around me if others do not behave in a consistent manner? Thankfully, my parents were consistent in their application of the rules and we kept to a rigid schedule. The rules did not change daily to accommodate my parents' emotions, whims, or comfortability (e.g., it was not suddenly ok to jump on the bed while dad was watching a football game and wanted me to leave him alone).

There is a whole theory on the stages of one's moral development. A deeper explanation is here. Suffice to say that during my grade school years, I remained in the earliest stage of moral development (punishment and obedience). I would hope that I have made it through a few more stages since then :-). I believe my children are fundamentally in this stage right now and the "21 Rules" will be very beneficial.

So for you, what were the rules like in your household growing up? Did they seem to apply to everyone in the world, or just your family? I think it is interesting to note that by 2nd grade I was already generalizing the rules to others and wanting them to conform to the same standard. In some households, the rules are very simple: "Keep Dad & Mom happy." Unfortunately, this rule doesn't generalize very nicely and has no absolutes about it. It becomes "keep the authority figure (e.g., teacher, policeman) happy," which becomes "anything is ok as long as I don't get caught." But is it okay to drive drunk even if I don't get caught? We all agree that it is absolutely wrong to drive drunk, though sometimes one is forced to choose the lesser of two evils (someone dying unless I drive them to the ER).

Is Christianity a Set of Rules?
The vast majority of the population seems to think so. For example, if you find out that Joe is a Christian and then you find out he's doing something that is wrong in an absolute sense (e.g., abusing his children), you will experience a sense of moral outrage. Another example is people who are curious about the Bible and ask me all sorts of questions about what I would do in such-and-such a situation. They want to understand if there are any exceptions to the rules ("I know it says not to lie or steal but what happens if/when...").

The short answer is that Christianity is not about a set of moral rules. It is about a relationship. We obey God because we love him (we love, therefore we obey). We will almost certainly go the second mile out of relationship with someone, but not because a rule tells us so. Jesus used the parable of the Good Samaritan to explain this to a very rules-based Pharisee who wanted to make sure he was obeying the letter of the law.

Begin with the End in Mind
What is my end goal? That my children make an adult decision to love God and serve him freely and wholeheartedly for the rest of their lives. They are not yet Christians but I can't wait until the day of their baptism!

It will take many steps to get my kids there and ultimately it will be between them and God. The first step is to love my kids and develop the relationship to the point where they want to obey me. This prepares the foundation of their ability to receive God's love and relate to him. Second, I can teach them to obey our household rules that align with what the Bible teaches. Thirdly, I can introduce them to God and explain how obedience to Mom & Dad is obedience to God (Deut 5:16, Eph 6:1, Col 3:20). From there, hopefully they will be a few baby steps (and a lot of prayer!) away from the Kingdom of God. We will be living by faith that Proverbs 22:6 is still true: "Train ^a]">a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it."

I am extremely grateful for the Bible. It is an absolute reference point for my life and the life of my children. 20 years from now, I have the assurance that that standard will remain the same. My goal is to help my kids understand the Bible's rules and that they are obeying the Bible (God) and not simply Mom & Dad's rules. As soon as they leave the house, they will be on their own and Mom & Dad's rules won't apply. This when a lot of people "sow their wild oats" and it is socially considered an acceptable time of experimentation. The problem is that the stakes are very high (pregnancy, lifelong drug/alcohol/cigarette addiction, dysfunctional relationships, abusive patterns, etc.). I know my kids will leave the house and make their own decisions, but like God, I want to do everything possible to set them up for spiritual and life success.

Acts 17:24-27 states, "²⁴The God who made the world and everything in it is the Lord of heaven and earth and does not live in temples built by hands. ²⁵And he is not served by human hands, as if he needed anything, because he himself gives all men life and breath and everything else. ²⁶From one man he made every nation of men, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he determined the times set for them and the exact places where they should live. ²⁷God did this so that men would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him, though he is not far from each one of us."

Wow, guess I'll start explaining the 21 Rules tomorrow :-)...

Bible "Story"

Based on a recommendation from my sister, I recently took two courses from Landmark Education, for a total of about 70 hours of interactive instruction. In it they described the concept of “story” and how our stories keep us from growing and being truly creative with our future. Other branches of psychology also make use of this term.

During the course, many people went up to the microphone and described an ongoing problem with their life. The instructor would coach them in front of ~100 people, up to 45 minutes, trying to help them “let go” of their story. Oftentimes, the entire room can see the person’s story and their sin and yet the person in the spotlight simply can’t “get it” except with repeated overtures and arguments put forth by the instructor.

To help people distinguish reality from the story, the instructor typically drew two circles on a chalkboard: “What happened” (reality) and “I said…” A classic example is miscommunication between a husband and wife. The husband might say, “The sink is dirty.” That is the reality—what he said. The wife could easily make it into a story, “He doesn’t think I keep house well!” However, there are a multitude of reasons the husband could have made that statement and the wife will never know the reason unless she asks him questions.

Once we create a story (our paradigm or world view), we tend to make all our experiences fit into this story. The Landmark Forum was all about going back as far as possible in our lives to identify the moments where we first created these stories. In the marriage example above, perhaps the wife already has a story that "my husband is always criticizing me." The statement, “The sink is dirty” easily fits into her paradigm, reinforcing what she already thinks to be true. She might choose to react strongly and the couple could easily get into a fight. The husband likely has his own story about his wife and so there they are, each with their own stories that do not match with reality.

Now let’s think about what happens when the wife tells her girlfriend about the latest episode of her husband’s criticism. The girlfriend will naturally sympathize and thereby reinforce the wife’s story. Proverbs 18:17 states, “The first to present his case seems right, till another comes forward and questions him.” By repeating the matter (Prov. 17:9) the wife has chosen to drag the past into her future and create a reality for her friend who now treats the husband according to what she heard in the wife's story.

Landmark Education strongly emphasizes the power of what we say (our word) in our lives. As I reflect on the Bible and particularly Genesis 1 and John 1, I realized that we are more like God than I realized. The words that we say really do matter. They create our reality. We can change what we say at any time and our future can be entirely different. However, if we continue speaking the messages of the past, we remain entangled in sin. It is fairly easy to spot sin simply from the volume of words needed to express the events and the feelings they produced. Prov. 10:19 states, “When words are many, sin is not absent.”

We all have stories that hold us back to varying degrees. I don’t believe that story = sin necessarily. However, I do believe sin is often at the root of the significant stories of our lives. Bitterness is the fundamental sin at the source of stories that don’t die. The Bible contains only a few scriptures that directly address this sin (Heb. 12:14-17, Eph 4:31). I want to offer an example of “story” from my life and then end this piece with some scriptural examples to illustrate the concept of “story” from a Christian perspective.

In the second Landmark course, we did an exercise where we “disappeared” an area of suffering in our lives. I chose our adoption situation with Ar’Mircle. We wrote down all our experiences, thoughts, and feelings about the situation for ten minutes. Next, we sat opposite from a partner who was instructed to listen silently to our story while we read it over and over. We could stop reading it once the suffering had disappeared. I had to read mine for over a half hour. In the middle I broke down and cried. The point of the exercise was that our partner was not supposed to sympathize, empathize, or reinforce our story at all, even with nonverbal cues. Ideally, they would not even have been able to understand English. Even though I grasped this concept while they were explaining the exercise, it still took me a long time to let go of my story that I had made up about the brokenness of our social welfare system. At the end, I was able to see that while I felt pain and strong emotions due to the situation, I was no longer suffering because I was no longer resisting reality with an attitude of "things should (not) be this way or that way."

Two classic examples of story in the Bible spring immediately to mind. The first is when Elijah flees from Jezebel in 1 Kings 19 after God used him to win a great victory on Mount Carmel. In vv9-10, God asks, “What are you doing here, Elijah?” Elijah replies, “I have been very zealous for the Lord God Almighty. The Israelites have rejected your covenant … and put your prophets to death … I am the only one left, and now they are trying to kill me too.” Hopefully you can hear the story just leaking out of Elijah’s pores. God doesn’t address his complaint directly. Instead, he tries to reach Elijah through the earthquake/wind/fire/whisper experience. Again God asks, “What are you doing here, Elijah?” and again Elijah replies with his story. The words of Elijah’s two stories are actually filled with conviction and righteous indignation. However, I believe he said the second set of words in a very different tone of voice. Apparently God thought he was ready for the next thing, for rather than addressing it as story, he told Elijah his next action plan with Hazael, Jehu, and Elisha.

The second example is from John 5:1-15 where Jesus visits the pool of Bethesda, which was thought to possess powers of healing. “Here a great number of disabled people used to lie—the blind, the lame, the paralyzed. One who was there had been an invalid for 38 years. When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, ‘Do you want to get well?’ ‘Sir,’ the invalid replied, ‘I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me.’ Then Jesus said to him, ‘Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.’ At once the man was cured; he picked up his mat and walked.”

You can just hear the story oozing out of this man. He can’t give Jesus a yes/no answer, which is a good signal that he has some sort of story going on. Landmark builds upon the concept of “story” to what they call a “racket,” which is basically just sin. A racket reinforces your story while providing you with an emotional benefit and justifying the status quo. In this man’s case, his racket was, “No one is helping me so I am justified in not doing something with my life because I can’t get healed.” I’m grateful I was able to let go of my story about the social welfare system, or else I would have created a huge racket about how I was right and “they” were wrong, imputing all sorts of bad motives on all the players in that situation, which would have led me to behave not at all like my master (Jesus).

I am very grateful for God’s Word for its ability to help me identify my sins, rackets and stories each time I read it. Heb 4:12 states, “For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” I also count myself lucky to be surrounded by brothers who call me to the standard of the Bible and to have a spiritual wife who is not afraid to point out my sin. It seems like the older I get, the more I realize how much I need help...